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Are You in the Relationship Business?

Are you in the relationship business? Of course you are. Everyone who has to work with, deal with, sell to, convince, is! Unless you’re on a deserted island, you must connect with, interact, and influence people every single day. Building relationships today mean better business tomorrow.

Successful business and professional leaders know their #1 objective is getting their quality products and services out the door to those who will buy or use them. Unfortunately no leader can just wave a wand and make it happen. They have to rely on people-employees to work with them, vendors to supply them and customers to come to them. These leaders are not just good but GREAT at building relationships because they practices these three rules.

Rule #1:
It’s what you think. Not surprisingly, successful leaders strongly believe in the value of building relationships with others inside and out of their organization. If they didn’t think relationships make a difference to their professional or personal success, then why would they make the effort? Connecting with others is high on their priority list. How much effort are you making to connect with others?

Rule #2:
It’s what you pay attention to. Successful leaders make the time to get to know others, ask about their problems and acknowledge their ideas. Identifying shared interests, experiences and goals develops rapport and also builds long-term trust. Are you taking the time to really get to know your staff, co-workers, suppliers and customers?

Rule #3:
It’s what you do. The art of relationship building is like a simple piece of string. Pull it and it’ll follow you wherever you want. Push it and it will go nowhere. The same concept applies when it comes to influencing others. Super leaders build allies not enemies. They are approachable, have a knack to ‘tune in’ accurately to the needs of others and, most importantly, follow through. Do you build allies or enemies with those who you need t inspire, influence, or do business with?

Remember, winning relationships are keys to professional success. Skill in building and maintaining business relationships are valuable not only to sales people but to everyone from the shop floor to the top floor and everything in between.

Take a Quick Look.
Think of someone whom you have a great relationship with – a friend, neighbor, co-worker, client, or even a boss. What makes it great? Why is this relationship important to you? What do you do to make it work? What does the other person do to make it work? How can you take this learning and apply it to other relationships you have in your personal and professional life?

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How to do Sultry Smoky Eyes

They say there is nothing sexier than a pair of sultry smoky eyes, smoky eyes done so right that can cause a man to stop in his tracks.
But – do you know how to create a perfect set of smoky eyes?
What you need to get started:
Eye Primer
Loose powder
Dark Eyeshadow
Medium – grey eyeshadow
Black Mascara
Magic Lash
Now the idea is to be able have smoky eyes yet not look so much like you forgot to take your eye makeup
off last night. Even though, that has been known as a turn on for a quite lot of men, makes them wonder what you been up.
To start creating the Look you must have a base for it. This helps to keep the color in one place.
Smooth on a eyeshadow primer, some say foundation is good to use as long as its color doesn’t take away from what you are
trying to achieve. Now pat on loose powder setting the base. The real secret to the smoky look is in the color eyeshadow you use.
Tips: If your eyes are blue and you’re blond, then go for greens
instead, the darker the better. If your eyes are green then go for blues again the darkest shades of blues you like. If your eyes are brown then you’re just lucky with your choices of colors. Now purple eyeshadow is a color that everyone can try. Just try it in Plum, Berry and others like those.

Rim your eyes with a black or grey pencil drawing a line along both upper and lower lash line. Starting from inner corner of your eyes going outward starting a fine line going into
a heavier line as you draw outwards the outer corner.
If black or grey seems too harsh for your the Look you’re going
for, then try either dark brown, plum or taupe instead.

Apply a medium – grey eyeshadow all over your lids, stopping at the crease.
Apply your dark eyeshadow into the crease, then take a angled brush and apply the dark eyeshadow onto the eyeliner
and then smudge it well with a cotton swab keeping as much of the color at the outer corner of your eyes. The angled
brush is great for getting eyeshadow up under your lashes on the bottom which in turn helps keep your eyeliner in place.
Its the smudging that got to be done carefully. The idea is to blend the eyeshadow and eyeliner together. If you wanted a more “feline” aka cat eyes then using a liquid eyeliner would be best.

Helping to contrast the darkness of your eyeshadow, sweep a pearlized ivory eye shadow over your brow
bones for a wide-eyed look. By applying a little at a time, you are building up the effort gradually till you like what you see.
Finishing off the look with one coat of black mascara, one coat of Magic Lash if you want super long eyelashes to go along with this Look, then one more coat of black mascara.

Dark colors trend to make small eyes look even smaller, you can open them up by lining the rims from the
inner to the center with a light-colored pencil, rather than dark pencil, pat on pale eyeshadow on the
center of each lid. That should cause the small eyes to seem bigger.

For the rest of this ideal Look. Finish off by using a tawny blusher or a bronzing powder. Its
natural color won’t complete with the rest of your makeup. Sweep it over your cheekbone, blending away
to the edges into your hairline.
Keeping your lips neutral gives this Look its real impact. Go for a pinkish – beige shade of lip pencil
and smudge it over your entire mouth for a matte, just been kissed yet understated effect. Now your eyes
are ready for whatever you might have planned. This Look can be toned down for work but who would want to?

About the Author

Copyright 2005 Kim Snyder Owner of Overallbeauty.com Great lover of beauty care and products, never happy
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The Pastimes of Luck Gambling Aficionados Enjoying Taking Part in: a Short Guide to Betting Hall Games of Luck

In case you have not figured out betting saloon games of chance, then please read on — By common definition a betting saloon is a construction that caters to card-playing. At such a place, aficionados are invited to take chances at one-armed-bandits or trying out some other games of luck. Gambling house games most likely have absolutely determined percentages informing them which insure the organization grasps on to its lead against the gaming fans.

A lot of betting establishment games can make you end up overly habituated quickly. the classic slot-machine, a coin operated machine with 3+ discs which spin when a crank coupled to it is yanked. This appliance commonly pays out in accord with a sequence of images shown on the dials on the machine. Disastrously, gaming establishment pastimes will convey the hallucination of power, conning the gamester: the addressee is charged with alternatives, but in reality they can not truly remove the player’s long-term odds. This is precipitated by the betting room not paying up the full amount as expected. This systematic arrangement is often seen at work in popular casino games such as five-card stud, craps, roulette or blackjack.

Straight poker is indisputably an incredibly popular casino game. The gaming devotees, holding partially covered hands, place their stakes in the pot that is ultimately paid out to the last punter endowed with winning combination of cards. (Of course, the coolest bluff may well prevail ..) Comparable to blind poker, blackjack is likewise a very popular casino game. Most of its acceptance is due to the mix of chance and ingenuity and decision making, not to mention a praxis called card counting. It is a craft in which gaming enthusiasts can significantly skew the winning odds of the card game to their own advantage both by wagering & systematic opetations corresponding with the cards deployed.

Craps is another acclaimed gambling hall pastime involving the throw of a couple of dice. Players wager on the outcome of of one spin, or on a series of cycles on 2 dice. Contrary to blackjack, there is no viable winning strategy players could use to improve the odds. Roulette is a prominent game of chance: a croupier whirls a roulette wheel incorporating exactly thirty-seven (European roulette) or precisely 38 (American roulette) independently numbered slots in which the tossed pellet will finally come to a stop, signifying the winner Assuming that a gamer has bet on any given number which hits it big, which is to say they’ve got a lucky hand, the set profit is 35 to one, the pledge is returned. So in totality the initial pledge is increased by thirty six.

It’s recommended that you try to be careful notwithstanding for such gaming establishment games should be considered indisputably habituating. Copious lives are known to have been ruined through uncontrolled gambling + although it indeed can be a lot of fun, seek to keep your cool.

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“Hey, You Can’t Ask Me That!” (How to Respond to Inappropria

I received the following questions from a visitor to my website recently: “How should I respond to inappropriate questions such as: (1) Do you have a stable home life? (2) Tell me about your personal situation. Are these inappropriate questions? It has been so long since I interviewed for a job, your suggestions about the most helpful responses would be appreciated!”
Those are, indeed, inappropriate questions that should NOT be asked at an interview.

Various federal, state, and local laws regulate the questions a prospective employer can ask you. An employer’s questions on the job application, in the interview, or during the testing process must be related to the job for which you are applying.

That does not mean, however, that you will never be asked inappropriate questions. Some companies have poor HR support, some interviewers are untrained and unaware of inappropriate or illegal questions, and some even ask them knowing they should not.

You won’t have much chance of getting the job if you respond to such questions by saying, “Hey, that’s an inappropriate question. You can’t ask me that!”

So you have a few options. First, you can answer the question. Even if it’s inappropriate to ask, there’s nothing that says you can’t answer it. If you choose to do so, realize that you are giving information that is not job-related. You could harm your chances by giving the “wrong” answer.

Or you could respond with something like, “How would my answer to that question directly relate to my ability to perform in this position?” If you keep your tone non-confrontational, courteous and upbeat, they may realize they’ve goofed by asking such a question without getting upset at you for pointing out their mistake. Depending on how they respond, you may feel more comfortable answering.

The best strategy, I believe, is to figure out and address their TRUE CONCERN. When they ask something like, “Do you have a stable personal life?” they may be trying to protect themselves from a bad situation that they’ve had to deal with in the past (former employee whose personal problems interfered with his/her ability to do the job). So what they really want to know is, will YOU be a reliable employee who can be counted upon to show up and do your job effectively, regardless of any personal problems you may have.

So without directly answering their question, try to address their underlying concern. In this instance you might say, “My career is very important to me. I’m fully committed to performing at my highest level at all times, and don’t allow any kind of distractions to interfere with that. I’ll deliver the results you’re looking for.”

If you’re not sure what their true concern is, ask something like “Could you please rephrase or elaborate on your question? I want to make sure I address your concern.”

Please realize that many interviewers are untrained and therefore unaware that a question they might ask to break the ice — such as “Do you have any kids?” — is inappropriate. Yes, this question may be an attempt to determine if you have child-care issues that could interfere with your job… but it’s MORE likely that the interviewer is innocently trying to find something he/she has in common with you.

In the end, it’s basically a judgment call on your part. If you feel the interviewer has no legitimate reason to ask an inappropriate question, and you do not want to answer it, say “I’m sorry, but I don’t see how that has any relevance to my ability to do this job.” You might run the risk of losing the job, but if your gut instinct is telling you there’s something amiss, you wouldn’t want to work for that person anyway.

Here’s a list of some questions — the wrong way, and the right way, to obtain legitimate information:

Inappropriate: Are you a U.S. citizen?
OK: Are you authorized to work in the United States?

Inappropriate: How old are you?
OK: Are you over the age of 18?

Inappropriate: What’s your marital status? Do you have children?
OK: Would you be able and willing to work overtime as necessary?

Inappropriate: How much do you weigh? Do you have any disabilities?
OK: Are you able to perform the physical duties required in this job, with or without reasonable accommodations?

Inappropriate: Have you ever been arrested?
OK: Have you ever been convicted of _____? (The crime should be reasonably related to the performance of the job in question.)

About the Author

Bonnie Lowe is author of the popular “Job Interview Success System” and publishes a free information-packed ezine called “Career-Life Times.” Find out about those resources and check out powerful strategies for job seekers at her website: http://www.best-interview-strategies.com.

Hamlet: To be or to Do?

Hamlet and the Verb “to Be”

What then are the situations, from the representation of which, though accurate, no poetical enjoyment can be made? They are those in which the suffering finds no vent in action; in which a continuous state of mental distress is prolonged, unrelieved by incident, hope or resistance; in which there is everything to be endured, nothing to be done. In such situations there is inevitably something morbid, in the description of them something monotonous. When they occur in real life they are painful, not tragic; the representation of them in poetry is painful also.

Matthew Arnold, Preface to 1853 Edition of Poems

A Synopsis:

This essay compares two passages in which the verb “to be” invites particular attention, in Act I, Sc. II and Act III Sc. I. In one of these the word “be” already enjoys no small measure of attention throughout the world. The appearance of the same word in Act 1, Scene II seems to have slipped critical attention. I will argue that both passages in question throw light on each other, and when viewed in their respective contexts prove to be centred on two contrasts inhering in Shakespeare’s use of the word “be”, that of being and seeming and that of being and not being. Together they reflect the fact that Hamlet is a drama rooted in questions of ontology, the nature of being, rather than in an interplay of actions. Verbs in literary texts receive relatively attention, perhaps because they tend to submerge themselves in the onward process of sentence construction, and “to be” is perhaps one of the least obtrusive and most inconspicuous verbs of all. When then should it deserve our special attention in Hamlet?

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Disparaged but undeniably great

Hamlet has certainly incurred its fair share of adverse criticism, notably from Voltaire, Bernard Shaw and T. S. Eliot, but in one regard the play marks an unchallengeable achievement. Few other literary works have enriched the English language with such succinct and proverbial phrases as Hamlet has done. Probably most people, when saying “You have to be cruel to be kind”, “there’s method in his or her madness”, “more in sorrow than in anger”, “there are more things in heaven and earth than are dreamed of in your philosophy”, are not making any conscious allusion to passages in Hamlet, but in the case of one quotation they probably are, namely: “To be or not to be, that is the question”. It is the verbal texture of Hamlet along with its universal appeal that has ensured the world’s continued interest in the play, not its allusions (as interesting as they are) to the Earl of Essex and contemporary society during the turmoil that attended the final years of Elizabeth’s reign nor a clinical interest in Hamlet’s and Ophelia’s well delineated symptoms of abnormal mental conditions, such as manic depression or paranoia and possibly leanings towards necrophilia. The rotten state of Denmark is more than the Denmark of Hamlet’s age, more even than the oppressive spy-ridden state of Elizabethan England in its closing years but rather the human condition per se. While I do not subscribe to the view that Hamlet was a crypto-Puritan, his sense of human depravity falls little short of the Puritan view of reprobate and fallen mankind. The poisons which kill off most of the main characters correspond to the poisons acting on the human mind. These are seen in Claudius’s ruthless ambition, in Hamlet’s despair and in Ophelia’s madness induced by Hamlet’s mental cruelty towards her (the result of a self-defensive macho posture rather than of any malicious desire to harm her?) and by the hypocrisy of a society dominated by male chauvinist attitudes in all their medieval trappings. In her apparently insane ravings she exposes male double standards with astounding precision, particularly in her rhymes telling of a man who robs a girl of her virginity and refuses to marry her for no longer being a virgin

Being and doing

Hamlet fails to do because of what he is. By contrast, in Shakespeare’s most recent literary source for Hamlet, Thomas Kyd’s Ur-Hamlet, a play we can only reconstruct on the basis of secondary evidence, the protagonist’s delay in taking decisive action is dictated by circumstances and tactics, not his own psychological inhibitions or moral misgivings. In Shakespeare’s Hamlet the one pivotal and decisive action of the play, the killing of Polonius, is a gross and absurd blunder (indeed, there is the view that Hamlet anticipates the Theatre of the Absurd in significant ways). Polonius’s death marks Hamlet’s departure from his careful experimental mode of operation as typified by his staging “The Mousetrap”, an indication, perhaps, that the real world offers no laboratory conditions for the resolution of all human problems. Indeed, the incongruous relationship between the actions and the inward character of Hamlet provoked Eliot’s famous assertion that in Hamlet Shakespeare failed to establish an “objective correlative” revealing how Hamlet’s emotions might find their adequate and precise expression in actions and events. Endorsing the opinion of another critic (J. N. Robertson), Eliot argued in his essay “Hamlet and his Problems” in The Sacred Wood (1920) that Shakespeare’s alleged failure partly lay in the “intractable” nature of the material provided by his sources with its motif or revenge, its ghost and its despicable intrigues.
Perhaps Eliot did not take full account of one very important difference distinguishing Kid’s Ur-Hamlet (and closely associated with it The Spanish Tragedy) from Shakespeare’s drama, for the Bard inverted the roles of father and son in making it Hamlet’s goal to avenge his father, while in Thomas Kyd’s play a father avenges his son. In fact, Shakespeare partially returned to the plot laid down by the original Danish story of Hamlet, likewise a son who avenges his father. This inversion or return to source entails an orientation to the future, the expectation of progress, if not a guarantee of its full achievement. At one level Hamlet revolves around the thwarting of a normal smooth transfer from one generation to the next. A reflection of England’s looming dynastic crisis? Be that as it may, in Hamlet we witness the interpenetration of two historical planes with one reflecting the transition from paganism (with its ethos of revenge) to Christianity (with its ethos of forgiveness) while the other reflects the transition from medieval society to modern secularism. Perhaps this density of associations offers the main reason why Hamlet has been seen so variously as the champion of conflicting beliefs and ideologies, whether as a Catholic, a Puritan or modern agnostic. In fact, all these elements fin intermingle in Hamlet’s character making him a prototype of the distraught Romantic hero and today’s “crazy mixed up kid”.

Individual words and the light they shed on the works to which they belong

Amid all the debate and contrary opinions that surround Hamlet I wish to adopt a logocentric approach to Hamlet which involves a consideration of particular words in this literary text. I feel no better point of departure is offered by these words:

To be or not to be, that is the question

Do these words pose a memorable yet isolated expression, or do they point to something of essential importance to the dramatic work in which they found? The same underlying question concerns not only words found in Hamlet but those in all works of literature, a point made clearly by the Russian Formalist Yurij Tanjanov in an article bearing the translated title of “The Meaning of the Word in Verse”. (1) The very formulation of “the Word” arguably betrays the Russian linguist’s indebtedness to scriptural precedents such as those laid by the opening of St John’s Gospel or in Rabbinic principles of Biblical interpretation, for Tyntanov enhances de Saussure’s distinction between langue and parole by contrasting the specific reference of a word in terms of its immediate context with its universal aspect as part of a totality created by all words of like meaning and appearance. A poet’s puns or play on words produce much more than the jocular effects of puns in non-literary language but point to a connection between the specific context-related significance of a word and its universal aspect. For Tynjanov a word derives significance from more than the context supplied by the sentence or passage to which it belongs but also from other wider contexts, including that of the entire work of which it is a part, that of the author’s entire literary output, that of his or her historical situation and finally that of its being subsumed by “the word” as Tynjanov defined it in its widest, its universal sense.

Reflections on the verb “to be”

Can “to be” considered in the light of Tynjanov’s theory of the word? As many a teacher of language will know, “to be” is in some ways the most problematic, irregular and infuriating of verbs. With other verbs, at least, the infinitive signals the formal unity of its various forms and manifestations irrespective of tense or declination. “Be” as a word occurs only in the infinitive, the imperative and subjunctive categories. Second, while verbs generally denote some form of action, “to be” denotes a state of existence with no necessary reference to any action at all. Some languages can apparently dispense with the verb altogether. In certain ways it poses an obvious antithesis of “to do” and it is only in the imperative that “be” is dependent on “do” . This contrast finds a parallel in the basic issue that confronts us in Hamlet.

The very ubiquity to the verb “to be” in all its various forms renders it virtually featureless and inconspicuous in all but the most exceptional cases, the line “To be or not to be” posing one of them. Let us, however, consider another case where “to be” deserves attention. It occurs early in the play in a scene placed at a juncture before Hamlet meets his father’s ghost.

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If it be

The following reference to the text of the play in Act I, Scene II reveals Shakespeare’s interest in the verb “to be”, containing as it does a contrast between being and seeming, essence and appearance Act I, Scene II

Queen:……..
Thou know’st ’tis common; all that lives must die,
Passing through life to eternity.
Hamlet: Ay. Madam. It is common.
Queen: If it be,
Why seems it so particular with thee?
Hamlet: Seems, madam! Nay, it is; I know not ’seems.’

The appearance of the word “be” in the words of Gertrude quoted above has nothing of the resounding effect of “be” placed at the beginning of Hamlet’s famed soliloquy. Even so, in his reply to his mother Hamlet pounces on Gertrude’s choice of verbs changing the form of the verb “to be” from the diffident subjunctive to the bold indicative, which he then juxtaposes with “seems” . The use of quotation marks in this case draws attention to words as individual bits of language rather than on the information conveyed by words when assuming their usual subservient role. In treating “seems” as a noun and thus deviating from the rules of grammar, the author again makes us aware of the mechanics of language which we constantly use without reflecting on them. Hamlet proceeds to expatiate on the difference between what is and what seems – between Schein and Sein – in the lines quoted below:

It is not alone my inky cloak, good mother,
Not customary suits of solemn black,
Nor windy suspiration of forced breath,
No, not the fruitful river in the eye,
Nor the dejected ‘haviour of the visage,
Together with all forms, moods, shapes of grief,
That can denote me truly. : these indeed seem.
They are all actions that a man might play :
But I have that within which passeth show.

Hamlet in Act I scene II evinces all the main traits of character that later come to the fore and manifests his basic attitudes to the world. These will undergo little qualitative change, even after he has cause to wrestle with the possibility that Claudius has killed his father. We find in this scene anticipations of what will more fully emerge in great soliloquy in Act III, Sc. I. In Act I Sc. II he already contemplates suicide while expressing countervailing fears instilled by religious teaching when saying in the soliloquy that ends this scene:

Oh, that this too solid flesh would melt
Thaw and resolve itself into a dew !
Oh that the Everlasting had not fix’t
His canon ‘gainst self-slaughter. ..

These lines together with inferences we can make from the special permission required for Ophelia’s burial suggest that Shakespeare was somewhat preoccupied with the issue of suicide at the time of writing Hamlet. Speculations about the author apart, Hamlet questions even before his encounter with the ghost whether life has any true meaning. The profundity of his underlying pessimism is concealed by his situation as a son mourning his father’s death, but Claudius and his mother shrewdly note that he exceeds the limits of filial piety normally demanded by decorum. Claudius’s objection that even mourning a parent’s death can become obsessive and eventually exceed a socially acceptable limit comes over as sagacious and temperate advice should we disregard his personal vested interest in raising it. As his exclamation …”Frailty, thy name is woman !…..makes abundantly clear, Hamlet has already developed a strong antipathy to womankind, which augurs ill for any future relationship with a member of the opposite sex. The reason is clear. What most galls him at this stage, as later, is the unseemly haste in which his mother has entered into marriage with Claudius, his father’s brother, a marriage he decries as “incestuous”, the same word the ghost will also employ in due course. His invective seems to combine his own sense of disgust with a defence of the Church’s laws on marriage. Talk of “incest” immediately recalls the Freudian Oedipus complex. Hamlet’s killing of Polonius occurs significantly enough in his mother’s bedchamber and a reference he makes to Nero points to his fear of becoming an unwilling matricide. This reference finds an odd parallel on the occasion when Hamlet hails Polonius as Jephthah, the biblical judge who kills his next of kin, in that case his own daughter. Few other plays outside Hamlet show how people advertently or inadvertently bring death and harm to their nearest and dearest, whether son, mother, sweetheart, uncle, niece or prospective brother-in-law, a fact which seems to symbolize the interdependence and inextricability of human relationships and hence the impossibility of surgically clean assassinations. One of the more laudable motives that inhibits Hamlet from killing Claudius stems from this recognition. On the philosophical level Hamlet fears committing himself to action because the consequences of deeds are unpredictable and may well become the agents of evil. It will also be interesting to take some account of C. G. Jung’s variant understanding of the Oedipus complex, which he, more emphatically than Freud, uncovered in that stage in cultural development when great heroes like Ulysses and Hercules were identified as human embodiments of the sun on its course through day and night. According to Jung the male libido seeks its source and future goal in embodiments of the female anima, which in line with the logic of Jung’s main argument conflates mother and bride. Jung saw art as a possibility of evading the logic implied by this dread of incest, a possibility afforded by the artist’s exercise of boundless creativity in the media of sound, word and physical substances and in imaginative powers of sublimation. Hamlet’s prevarications stave off death until the play’s cataclysmic end with a commensurate extension of the scope given to the development and articulation of words. As we know from The Thousand and One Nights verbalizing can be a very effective way of stalling. Besides, deferred action heightens interest in psychological and mental tensions.

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What a difference a ghost makes

The entrance of the ghost occurring at a juncture set between the passages under consideration does not induce a fundamentally new attitude in Hamlet but at most serves as a catalyst effecting an acceleration of already existing trends. The ghost makes Hamlet aware of the possibility that his father was killed by his own brother, but is a supernatural agent necessary as the only way of pointing to such a possibility? On the strength of circumstantial evidence alone Hamlet has reason enough to suspect his uncle of being responsible for his father’s death. The evidence provided by a ghost was in any case suspect according to the tenets of Christian doctrine. The question as to whether the devil could assume the appearance of innocent mortals was a contentious issue that was still being hotly debated at the time of the notorious witch trials in Salem Massachusetts . Hamlet’s encounter with his father’s ghost leads to no resolution of Hamlet’s malaise . It intensifies already extant emotions and tensions to the point of making him even less capable of reasoned action. The experience of encountering a supernatural being serves only to produce feelings of headiness and frenzy of the kind that has induced many a disoriented and distracted young person to commit extra-judicial executions in the name of a higher authority. Making decisions is difficult enough when one has this world’s parameters to contend with without having to worry about otherworldly dimensions. Hamlet’s fear that the ghost might pose a malign influence, a centre of contagion, is not to be dismissed lightly in view of subsequent events culminating in the play’s final massacre.

To be or not to be

Hamlet’s unresolved state of mind that follows his encounter with the ghost is mirrored in the second passage in which the verb “to be” is foregrounded. The celebrated soliloquy confirms what we have been able to infer from Hamlet’s previous utterances in Act 1, Scene II. He is not an assured believer in the promise of eternal life according to the Christian creed though he nurtures lingering fears about the possible suffering of a departed soul in purgatory or hell. But is the soliloquy exclusively concerned with the question of the soul’s survival after death? The words “To be or not to be” cannot be adequately paraphrased by “to live on or not to live on”. The initial prompt for the soliloquy is instigated by Hamlet’s act of contemplating suicide, but beyond this point the soliloquy makes little reference to Hamlet’s personal situation but rather expands into a general discussion of the ills attending the condition humaine .

Viewed in a linguistic or grammatical light, “To be or not to be” poses a striking use of the infinitive which in subsequent lines recurs in “to die”, “to sleep”, and “to dream”, creating the effect of an algebraic formula devised to discover the unknown in terms of the known. However, as Hamlet himself admits, his linguistic-analytical approach to comprehending non-existence must ultimately prove inconclusive as a human being can never directly confront death in his or her mind without dying in the process, only the thought of death or images for death derived from the mind of a living person. Thus Hamlet tests the very limits of thought and its principal vehicle, language, particularly language that relies on the use of metaphors. Here the verb “to be” plays a central role, for in the processing of creating a metaphor we elucidate the nature of the object of comparison by associating it with something other than itself. Put simply, a metaphor arises when you say that something is what it is not. Rational metaphors such as similes state that one thing, person or entity is like another. However, absolute or mystical metaphors state that one such thing, person, etc is the other without further qualification.

The issues raised by Hamlet’s most famed soliloquy are all-pervasive in this play and possibly others written by Shakespeare, being rooted in the spirit of an age in transition, an age when leading minds were increasingly concerned with the nature of metaphors and language. What after, all posed the central point of contention between Protestants and Catholics in Shakespeare’s age if not the metaphor contained in the words “This is my body”? The flowering of the theatre in Elizabethan England could be seen as a reaction to the vacuum left by the cessation of of medieval church ritual after the introduction of the Reformation. The final scene seems to derive much of its imagery by ironically inverting aspects the Eucharist with the icons of the table and the cup of wine and by Hamlet’s ironic use of the word “union” when ending Claudius’s life.

Hamlet and other persons surrounding him question not only the validity of words and their ability to represent truth but all signifiers in the domain of semiotics, of which language is only a part. Perception and memory as representations of reality are not always be assumed to be reliable, a point already intimated in the first scene when Horatio and Marcellus discuss the sight of the ghost .
Before my God, I might not this believe
Without the sensible and true avouch
Of my own eyes

Horatio to Marcellus Act 1 Sc. 1

The unsettling implications of the Copernican revolution are apparent in Hamlet’s protestation of love written on a note to Ophelia:

Doubt thou the stars are fire;
Doubt that the sun doth move;
Doubt truth to be a liar;
But never doubt I love

Letter read to Gertrude by Polonius Act ll Sc. Il

Indeed the spirit of doubt conjured up in these points anticipates the pose of absolute scepticism adopted by Descartes towards outside reality which found definitive expression in the dictum Cogito ergo sum. Shakespeare gave voice to what has become a central postmodern attitude to the arbitrariness of the sign, most notably in Juliet’s words “What’s in a name?” A corollary to the arbitrariness of the sign on the philosophical level is the manipulation of the sign on the moral and aesthetic planes. The case of The Mousetrap demonstrates the relevance of drama to politics, leading some to conclude that this play within a play recalled the uproar caused by the performance of Richard II at the time of the Essex rebellion. The motif of the jester in Hamlet epitomized by Hamlet’s meditation on a Yorick’s skull belies the Prince’s declaration that he rejects all actions “that a man might play”. In this light we may interpret the deaths of Hamlet and Laertes as a reflection of an inseparable connection between sportive play and the reality it imitates and is normally supposed to harmlessly replace.

To thine own self be true

This above all ; to thine own self be true.
And it must follow, as the night the day,
Thou canst not then be false to any man.

Act I Sc. III

Polonius’s parting words to Laertes betoken more that a piece of well-meant paternal advice. They are predicated on the age-old philosophical viewpoint that a person’s knowledge of the world and all acts stemming from it are profoundly affected by the extent and character of that person’s self-knowledge. In philosophical terms, this means steering a middle course between the Scylla of solipsistic self-isolation and the Charybdis of a belief in the possibility of achieving absolute objectivity detached from morality and self-interest.

. In Hamlet, such an insight evidently arrives too late to be of much practical assistance to the main players at the end of the drama. On the other hand, approaching death has a remarkable way of concentrating the mind and sharpening awareness of what essentially matters. In Hamlet and more obviously in Romeo and Juliet it proves not only to be the dreaded universal destroyer but also the reconciler of what cannot be united on this imperfect earth. Romeo and Juliet at least points to a beneficial result of death for the surviving society. Hamlet and Laertes are reconciled at the point of death not simply because they realize that they have fallen victim to Claudius’s evil machinations. They acknowledge their mutual affinity as brothers in death. Gertrude drinks the poisoned wine despite Claudius’s warning not to do so, which makes her dying act a token of a desire to expiate her guilt and declare solidarity with her son, thus, in the terms of Jung’s theory of the unconscious, symbolizing the union of the male libido and the female anima. Horatio volunteers to kill himself too, but Hamlet lays upon him the charge of reporting to others the tragic events he has witnessed, doubtless for the sake of posterity. Someone has to live on to report the tale, as Shakespeare himself well knew. Fortinbras’s commentary of “The sight is dismal” on surveying the corpses of members of Denmark’s royal house might be taken as evidence of Shakespeare’s descent to banality at so solemn a moment in the play, but perhaps Fortinbras is reminding us that death is a banality that in the end overtakes all, the good and the evil, the wise and ignorant, nor can society and physical universe itself defer death’s triumph indefinitely, be this the work of Doomsday or the second law of thermodynamics, whether the world ends with a bang or a whimper. At least, in a certain regard, the mind’s recognition of the Eternal Now renders it indestructible, leaving it to each individual to decide whether the thought of death degrades or elevates the human spirit.

(1) Jurij Tynjanov, “The Meaning of the Word in Verse”, in Readings in Russian Poetics / Formalist and Structuralist Views, ed. by Ladislav Mateijka and Krystina Pomorska (Michigan Slavic Publications, Ann Arbor, 1978), pp. 136-145

What Is Real Or True In Life?

What is Real or True in Life?

By Clive Taylor

It is suggested that that there are two main approaches to life.

One approach, is to accept all the Truths of life as true, as being completely, actually real, no question, Absolute, bedrock “how things are”.

Realities such as:

The existence of God.
That we have a Soul
The nature of Love.
The nature of Truth.
The Meaning of Life.
What brings us Happiness.
What brings us Joy.
What it means to have Faith.
What activity or view of life is considered Spiritual
The existence of an Afterlife.
The existence of Heaven and Hell.
Reincarnation
The nature and role of Sex.

Another approach to life, is that real freedom of mind and true sanity comes from discovering for ourselves, with a conscious mind, what is actual in life.

This is an approach that suggests it is important to discover for ourselves the nature and role of things we take for granted as real.

That it’s especially important to find out for ourselves all the reasons for our automatic acceptance of the issues listed above.

To discover what role, if any, our deep unmet needs have in what we believe and why we believe.

It is possible that real fulfillment comes from having the courage to face and transcend our despair, pain and suffering and our fears.

That to become real we need to put aside all ideas of good, bad, right or wrong and discover our unconscious motivations for seeing life in these ways.

It is the mismatch between our ideas of what is real and what is actually real that is the source of our suffering.

To embrace change, with real understanding of how our beliefs create the content and experience of our lives, is the way to freedom and spiritual sanity.

Related site: www.becomereal.com

www.becomereal.com offers, if you choose, an evaluation of the particular unconscious survival dynamics that you have set up in your life.

It does this through a short series of all-encompassing questions that allows an algorithm (The Universal Generator) to access your particular dynamic in a four-dimensional belief/behaviour “landscape.

It offers simple, but profound, ways for you to move your life back into consciousness.

It also has a unique, direct process that enables you to make the decision to change your life.

All of this, online instantly.

Years of personal research into consciousness traditions and modern consciousness research, along with radical new findings about the way much of the content of the universe organises itself, have gone into the development of the processes I am working with.

This includes hands-on work in relationship therapy of all kinds and post natal depression groups.

I have written and/or illustrated over 80 early reader children’s books.

ctaylor@becomereal.com

Copying Old Recordings To Digital

I can’t believe how poorly Caruso and others were copied by experts! Often, the technician or intellectual copies the old recordings at the wrong speed making the vocal horrible, out of tune and, for the fine ear, unrecognizable. Here’s some observations on the old recordings. I’ll also cover how to improve the sound of the copy.

Make sure that the old disc is clean. Gently wipe away dust with a camel’s hair brush.

If you have an old mechanical device such as a Victrola, set the microphone about 18″ from the front sound hole. Try a few recordings to see where exactly to place the mic for the least machine noise.

I believe Edison disc were recorded at 80 rpms. Don’t let that throw you. The trick is to record the Edison disc on a cassette deck that has a variable pitch control. After getting an acceptable recording-On playback, bump the pitch contol up a few notches.

Here’s part of the trick. All songs are recorded in a particular “key”. That is, the note should correspond to some note on a piano or other musical instrument. If you are not a musician, try to get a friend that know a little bit about music. If you have a keyboard, that would help too.

Now, when you play back the cassette, attempt to find the “key” on the piano or keyboard. If this doesn’t make much sense. Stop! Get that music friend to help you. What you should do is try to find the “key” of the song. If the music sounds flat, turn the pitch control forward. If the music sounds sharp, turn the pitch control backwards.

Remember, country songs from the twenties won’t be in F#, they probably will be in F major. There shouldn’t be any in G#, etc. Use your ear to approximate the original “key” hence the original speed.

You only want to bumb up the rpm speed replicated on the cassette tape by two rmps. Sooo..take it easy, you might go beyond the original key. Don’t move the pitch control too far. This take a little time to get the feel of it.

Victor records as with other phonograph records were recorded on mechanical machines. I heard that they recorded at 76 rpms. I don’t know this one for sure. Try to bump up the pitch control to get the right “key.”

If you can download copyright free music-like public domain stuff. You can later convert to analog on a cassette disc with a pitch control and do the work of getting the right speed. Some of these recordings on the web are done quite well except for the proper speed. In other words, they have done most of the work for you.

Good Luck. I think you’ll have a blast preserving the past!

Gene Smith has worked with recorded sound for 45 years. He has written several published songs and produced several spoken word CDs. He operates his own recording studio in West Virginia.

Embraces

I just decided now that I prefer hugs better than kisses. If I go clinical about it, Pete knows how much millions of germs reside in one’s mouth. {Did you know that the number of species of germs that resides in a mouth outnumbers the population of people in the world? Statistics shows… yeah. Promise!}

Kisses may be tingly to the sensation but you can’t shut off your nostrils to smell the awful halitosis. No matter how hunk-a-burnin’-love your partner looks like, noses don’t lie. Besides, it’s great to kiss, but who can guarantee that the one you kiss is always toothbrush fresh when you kiss. Or you? It just takes away the romantic illusion. Yeah, even actors who he laid in the romantic scenes in the movies would brush their teeth or chew breath mints before the take. But that doesn’t happen in real life, does it?

Bet! I will treat you do the best of garlic chicken dish and onion rings of Burger King but then you will have to like, LovaPalooza a Piolo Pascual-looker that’s like three times as garlicky and onion-y smelling upon opening his mouth. Would you dare? For like five minutes, French Kissing?! O, French fries na lang?! Yikes!!! Dare?

Hugs, or what I fondly want to prefer it called,… embraces, is better. It’s warm, cuddly, spontaneous, doesn’t have to smell that good, but of course it’s better if no B.O. lingers on, and it’s so like,…um… wholesome? To me the idea of two hearts touching (and kissing, for that matter) as two bosoms meet in a fierce embrace speak more evocative words than no any passionate kiss or poetry will do. And you can hug, er, embrace anybody, anytime! It’s the best and quick expression of love to the ones you do care about. It doesn’t have to be your lover or someone you are romantic with. It’s universal.

And yes… No danger of germs exchanging.

About the Author: WILLIAM Biagan Ramos is a person-on-wheelchair. An Accountancy graduate from the University of the East-kalookan, he uses his math background to hone the young minds of Elementary & High School students as a Private Tutor. He lives in Heritage Homes, Marilao Bulacan and the Creative Process of anything is his utmost passion. His wheelchair is symbolical only of how proud he is to be different. HIS LIFE HAS ALWAYS BEEN THE LITERAL SENSE OF PHILIPPIANS 4:16: “I CAN DO ALL THINGS THROUGH CHRIST WHO GIVES ME STRENGTH.”

Source: www.isnare.com

Do You Love Reading The Daily Horoscopes? Part I

Have you ever wondered why you feel an instant attraction to certain people? These intense reactions are pre-determined by a powerful astrological principle commonly known as horoscopes.

The daily horoscopes not only list the Zodiac signs for each month but also each signs' distinctive personality type. The fact is that conflict in a relationship often arises when two incompatible personality types are in disagreement. The Zodiac sign's listed in your daily horoscopes can be used as a guide to understanding the innate qualities and personality traits of your partner.

And that's not all — the twelve Zodiac signs listed in the horoscopes are actually divided into four separate categories know as Elements. These four natural elements; Fire, Air, Earth and Water houses at least three of the twelve Zodiac signs.

Now the first element Fire, houses the signs Sagittarius, Aries and Leo. The individual personality traits are action-oriented and vibrant. What does this mean for you? Well, look to add different levels of spontaneity to your relationship.

Air, the second element houses the signs Gemini, Libra and Aquarius. With inquisitive and innovative personality traits — open and honest discussions about relationship issues are satisfying. Best of all their curious nature are a welcome addition to spicing up any relationship.

The fertile element Earth houses the signs Virgo, Capricorn and Taurus. The personality traits are task-oriented and savvy. Gentle nurturing will relax the tendency of Earth to hold back feelings in a relationship.

A cooling mist, Water the final element houses the signs Pisces, Cancer and Scorpio. Water has a keen understanding of people's needs and a patient temperament. Even better is the high level of confidence and satisfaction manifested in its relationships.

There you have it — the four elements that houses' the twelve signs of your daily horoscopes. Discover the personality traits of your partner by exploring your horoscopes — embrace them. Use them to add intense passion to your relationship. You'll be glad you did!

Copyright © 2005 James Hall


About James: James Hall is happily married and thoroughly enjoys writing about relationships. His site, http://www.a1-online-dating.com, is a dating guide to finding lasting love on the web.

Magnesium Oxide

Magnesium oxide has the chemical formula MgO. It is a white or colorless, odorless compound. It is extracted from seawater or underground brine. It is also formed by the calcination of magnesium minerals such as magnesium carbonate and magnesium hydroxide. Magnesium oxide is present in the mineral periclase. Periclase is multihued, which makes it a substitute for gemstones. Periclase is also the substance responsible for providing streaks to white marble.

Medicinally, magnesium oxide is used as a short-term laxative for rapid elimination of the bowels, especially before surgery. It is also used as a dietary supplement when the amount of magnesium in the diet is not sufficient. Magnesium oxide use is not recommended for persons with heart and kidney problems. It is also not advisable for pregnant and lactating women. Magnesium oxide can interfere with other drugs like warfarin, aspirin, ranitidine, etc.

Apart from medicine, magnesium oxide also boasts several industrial uses. Magnesium oxide lined with carbon forms a tough refractory brick for metallurgical furnaces. Such magnesia bricks are resistant to corrosion and high temperature.

Magnesium oxide cement is also a good industrial binder. Magnesium oxide is high temperature resistant and so it is used to sheath thermocouples and also as filler in high temperature appliances such as rings of electric cookers.

Magnesium oxide is a highly versatile compound. Due to its refractive electro-optic properties, it is used as a protective layer in plasma screens. It is currently finding a use in semiconductor devices, though this property of magnesium oxide is yet to be fully explored.

Magnesium oxide is generally considered to be a harmless compound. There exist no special safety measures employed for people handling it. However, its fumes and dust may cause toxicity and allergies in certain individuals. Hence, workers in industries which involve grinding or crushing of magnesium oxide may be susceptible to airborne magnesium oxide related ailments.

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